I currently live with two of my closest friends here at UVA,
and they are quite wonderful young women. My only grievance with them is that
they free-ride off of my high standards of cleanliness. While we each have our
own room and I have my own bathroom (don’t know what my mental stability would
be like if I didn’t), we also have a lovely kitchen, dining room, and living room,
all of which are very inviting thanks to our collective decoration efforts. None
of us have desks in our rooms, thus we all do work in the common spaces. I view
these spaces as public goods shared amongst the three of us, as we can’t
exactly close the door to the kitchen or dining room to prevent others from
coming in.
A clean home is a happy home. Individual efforts to
keep it orderly and clean bestow group benefits. However, my roommates have
exhibited a reluctance to contribute voluntarily to such benefits. There have
been multiple times where I have had to delegate tasks for them to do: start
and then unload the dishwasher; take out the trashcan that is now overflowing
because I tried waiting to see if they’d take it out on their own; and wiping
all of the crumbs, flour, and oil off of the counters, as we all cook pretty
much every day. Though it means that they get to enjoy the benefit of a
beautifully clean home without contributions equal to mine, the private
benefits it brings me outweigh the costs of my individual time it takes up to not only pick up my own messes, but theirs as well.
Though I've accepted the situation for what it is, I don't believe this is too much to ask.
Alas.